Living gay, or transgender, is not a choice, or lifestyle, it is who people are. As humans everyone’s feelings, and emotions, are intertwined within our personalities from birth. The American Psychologists Association (APA) defines the word transgender “as an umbrella term for persons whose gender identity, gender expression, or behavior, does not conform to that typically associated with the sex to which they were assigned at birth. Gender identity refers to a person’s internal sense of being male, female, or something else.” Even as children LGBTQ (Lesbian, Gay,Bisexual,Transgender, Queer) people grow up knowing who they want to be; and what measure they will take to be or not to be who they truly are in society. Environment, culture, and religion, shape humans into choosing whether or not to accept themselves for who they truly are. Accepting society’s view over our personal views, can cause LGBTQ individuals to be trapped, and not live truthfully, in society. These people are held captive by the rules of society. Some of them never fully engage in life, because of fear of not being accepted. They usually live as LGBTQ in secrecy, on the down low (DL) causing more harm to them, than good. There are no gender rules, but there are gender roles. Wikipedia defines third gender/third sex, as “individuals who are categorized (by their will or social consensus) as neither man, nor woman. Although biology usually genetically determines whether a human’s biological sex will be male, or female, intersex people are born as well.
Third gender and LGBTQ individuals’ transitions can be different for each person. Some people transition where you can not tell their gender identity, and with some you can. Either way there are no rules, of what you have to do to be a male, female, or intersex. An individuals sexuality, or gender do not determine, a persons capabilities in life. The only decision is what kind of human do you want to be?
According to the APA, “people use clothing, hairstyle, voice, behavior, and body characteristics, to communicate their gender identity to others.” Here are suggestions for what can be changed in order to transition your gender identity.
Buy clothing that makes you feel suitable, and comfortable, in your gender type. Make sure your style of dress expresses the gender perception that you want to perceive. There are many styles, and colors, to choose from. You can mix and match clothing to make up your own style. My clothing varies daily. However, I make sure I wear what I want, and not what someone else wants. Perception is everything, what people see you as is what they will associate you with.
Whether short or long, colored or not, make your hair fit you. Don’t be scared to try something new. Cutting my hair marked the beginning of my journey for my transition. Once I cut my hair I felt free, and more masculine. It made me more secure in the gender role I am. For male to female transition (MTF) you may even consider growing your hair, and using extensions, or wigs.
Some people learn how to speak in higher or lower octaves. Practicing voice levels, exercises your voice to be able to go higher, or lower. You can strain your voice talking in a way you are not used to. Voice exercise will make your voice able to sound more feminine or masculine.
4. Physical Appearance of the Body
Working out and getting fit prepares your body to be the best new you can be. If you’re looking for a masculine appearance you may body build using weights, or calisthenics? If you’re looking for a feminine look, you may trim down with cardiovascular exercises like jogging, or bicycling. Masculine transition would more likely build muscle. While a feminine transition would tone down to be slender. Or you can do both, I personally toned down to build muscle, that would show.
5. Perception/Behavior You will see your behavior change as you gain confidence in your new look. The mind is the center of your transition. You can have a great appearance; however, if your perception is not right than you can’t fully transition. The mind makes the body look the way it perceives it to be. Make sure you research, and learn what you are, so you can be who you are. The more you learn, the more confidence you will build, making you stunningly marvelous to be who you are.
Notes: Wikipedia http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Third_gender, American Pshycologist Association(APA) http://wwwapa.org/topics/sexuallity/transgender.aspx